The myth of the deadbeat dad I find this interview with a writer/researcher intriguing insofar as it seems to demonstrate much of what it is trying to disprove.
The author interviewed black fathers who don’t live with their kids and found (unsurprisingly) that they wished that they could spend more time with them. Unfortunately, it appears that crucially they don’t seem to want to see them enough to provide for them financially.
“They said, ‘The most important thing that I can do for my child is be there, talk to them on the phone, go and see them’ They didn’t talk about their fatherhood in financial or provider terms.”
Later she goes on to say:
“women [say] ‘No, I don’t need this person to live in my home to be a good father.’ Especially if it’s a father who’s not working, or is in and out of jail, or perhaps a substance abuser.”
and on the fathers’ side she says:
“Some of the fathers didn’t feel that they were ready for marriage or felt that they weren’t marrying material — meaning that they didn’t have a full-time job. Some weren’t ready to be with one person for a long time. Some of them just didn’t want to marry the mother of the child. Some of them were very young when they met these women and they didn’t feel that they were settled down enough, or they thought that they were too wild.”
Pretty damning stuff in an interview which is supposed to be in defence of black absentee fathers!pornstar movie clipssapphic pretty moviespussy movies ejaculationjava quicktime movies inredeye moviefree sex movie clipsstrip poker moviemovies girl teen Map
